Teenage Emotions Are Tough

Teenage Attitude

When did the time come for my kids to not just want to sit on the couch and watch tv snuggling? Now every time they walk by, it's eye rolls and glares.

I know they are well taken care of and are extremely happy. I completely understand that this is just a phase but this does not help the way my heart feels. 

One thing I have tried to tell myself is that they need to express their own feelings in their own ways. We as adults need to do this and there are many adults that weren't allowed to do so as children or teens. I have open communication with my children and I do let them express their feelings in healthy ways.

If you are mad at me, that is ok. I am your parent first. I ask that you respect me as your parent and an adult. If you feel like you need to lash out. I am 100% ok with you going to your room and roll your eyes, write about your frustrations, or just say things to the wall. I was not raised this way. So this was something that I had to learn to do for my children. Realizing that I sometimes have a hard time controlling my emotions. How can I expect a child or teenager to keep theirs in check? It's unrealistic.

Of course, I get those happy moments too and those melt my heart! I love when one kid gives me a hug and the others have to have bigger hugs and it's a never ending cycle of hugs. That is my favorite!

Teenage Emotions 

When one of my daughters had her first monthly visitor not long ago. She handled it like a trooper. She was great although a little ill feeling. No outbursts or anger. Then all of a sudden the other day, it happened. She had a complete meltdown. No-one loves her, I don't love her and her baby brother doesn't love her. I honestly did not know how to handle that. Of course we all love you more than life itself child! Her little brother hugged her quite a few times and kept telling her how much he loves her. But it would take a lot more than words to make her feel better. I had to bring myself back to my teenage years of emotions during that time. I hugged her tightly and kept her by me the entire time I was cooking. I told her a million times that I love her. I kept telling her how proud I am of her. I let her help me cook while she sat on a stool.

By the time she went to bed, I could see she was feeling a little better. I told her that it was completely normal to have her emotions all over the place and that it will get better and easier to control later. She woke up the next morning and she was feeling back to normal.

One thing is for sure. These kids, toddler and teens, are my entire life. I will take all the bad that comes with the good! I will always love them more than anything in the world!